July 3, 2009
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WCFQ #4: Icky
For the record, I have never had sex. Yes, I know… I’m a 35 year old virgin. It’s a fact that really only impresses you sexual types. I, fortunately (or unfortunately from your perspective) am an asexual. Which means, I have no sex drive. I’m simply not interested in sex for sex’s sake. I suppose if I ever met someone who I loved and had a rapport with that I would try it, but since I have never met anyone with whom I felt that specific kind of attraction, I’m just not inclined to go out and do it for the sake of finding out what it’s like. I’ve never been someone who gives into peer pressure and this societal urge to have sex, from television and music to jokes and fashion, is just not something I feel I have to agree with to be happy.
Maybe this gives me a unique perspective in terms of what I can observe in how people and society treat sex. Which is to say, younger people seem to think having sex will cure something, yes, fill a void in their lives. Make them adults? Make them fit in better because “all their friends are doing it?” Who knows. According to various family members, I was never “young.” Older people seem to think sex creates a corrupt society. Sex itself is an act that invites immorality into one’s life. Pornography. Prostitution. And the people in between? It’s mixed bag, ranging from the belief that having sex will “fix something” to the idea that sex is an unclean activity which only degenerates crave.
See now sex is just a physical act so far as I’m concerned, and each individual attaches their own significance to it. For some, it is nothing more than a physical exercise. For others, it is a way to get closer to their significant other, to share something intimated of oneself with the one who you trust explicitly. Still others see it as a holy act which should only, ever be engaged in with someone you love for the purpose of procreation. Others label it in derogatory terms, as a dirty thing that is kept private because it is a necessary evil.
Whether sex fills a void or creates one all descends from personal perspective. It both fills and creates a void and at the same time has nothing to do with such notions. Sex is a physical act which creates life. It is a way for two people to share each other with each other. It is a way for people to hurt each other. It is a dirty thing that should be kept behind closed doors or maybe even be replaced by modern science with cloning, splicing, and artificial insemination… It is a way for new souls to enter this existence. It is a means to an end. It is an amusing past time. Sex is the subject of many jokes. According to comedians, people make funny faces during sex. Apparently it is awkward and icky and makes a mess and/or babies. Sex is just something animals do in order to perpetuate the species.Sex got me a cute little nephew and another niece/nephew on the way.
July 3rd
The New Year of the Seminole Indian tribe of Florida begins on this date, and is celebrated with an annual Green Corn Dance honoring the new corn crop. Eating the first corn marks the start of a new year.
The Festival of Cerridwen honors the goddess of knowledge, wisdom, plenty, and pigs.
In Italy, this day is sacred to the Witch of Gaeta; while in Greece, the goddess Athena is honored.
Sothis begins in Egypt, honoring the rise of Sirius.
The Dog Days of Summer officially begin. According to Hellenic traditions, the rising of the Dog Star heralded the hottest part of the year for the Northern Hemisphere. The Dog Days of Summer, as calculated by the Greater or Lesser Dog Star (Sirius or Procyon), may continue from 30 to 54 days. A generally accepted period is from July 3 to August 15.
The Greeks referred to the Dog Stars as Maera and Hecuba, and the Romans called them Canicula and Sycamine. It was called Isis Hathor by the Egyptians and symbolized by the form of a cow with disc and horns or as a cow recumbent in a boat with head surmounted by a star appearing from behind the western hills. In the earlier temple service of Denderah, Sirius was Isis Sothis and at Philae Isis Sati or Satit. Sirius, Canis Major, was Al Shi’ra or Al Si’ra in Arabic parts of the world, and Canis Minor was called Al Jummaiza or Al Ghumaisa, “the Dim” from the fact that her light was dimmer than that of her sister Al Shi’ra. They were also called Al Aliawat al Suhail, the Sisters of Canopus. The Norse called Sirius Loki’s Brand.
Comments (7)
I like your point of sex being essentially what you make of it. So true!
I like the title of this post.
And I really liked the last sentence, too.
I have to wonder if you were ever in a debate class. You could be for either side of the coin and that’s cool. You should have been a lawyer. Except that being a bibliophile suits you perfectly.
I, personally, feel that it neither fills or creates a void. To have sex simply because one feels empty or to continue having sex because it makes one feel whole sounds like there are deeper mental issues that a person should come to terms with before jumping to the conclusion that sex will fix a person’s problems. Sex isn’t a miraculous cure-all. Just my opinion.
I think it does both. As for me when I was younger I was “sex crazed” everything had to do with sex. Course I never got any lol. Then when I actually did have sex much later it seemed to create a whole afterwards. I felt like I lost something and was hurting deeply inside. Still do some days. I have no plans on having sex again but I also am not planning on not having sex again either. If I fall in love I will of corse talk to my special someone a lot more before hand. I think I just screwed myself over in fact by doing too many of the wrong things in the wrong ways. Without thinking about things first… Corse I’m not saying what I am meaning now either. It’s just complicated. Ill leave it at that.
@Broom_Service - No, I was never in debate. I probably would have had a good time since I like to “argue.” But I do try to see things from all perspectives. It’s one of the characteristics of an empath. I don’t know that I could ever have been a lawyer. I’d probably have more health problems from the stress and I’d be poor because I’d only take on clients who were innocent. I’d probably run myself into the ground. I’d make a better judge, I think. I think my ability to see things from multiple perspectives is something that makes me a good writer though.
As for sex, I think people go into it with a whole slew of expectations, and it’s often disappointing because of that. People get too much of a brainwashing from media, and most of all they are led to believe that sex is pretty much *the* goal of life. Money, fame, property, are all means to get sex and sex is the only goal. From a biological standpoint, that’s kind of true. We’re genetically hardwired to seek the continuation of our genetic quirks. But the extent to which society goes to get sex is just not healthy IMO. In that way, I think it creates a void in people’s lives, in that they are led to expect sex as a part of their lives, and in that way, when they don’t get the sex they are led to believe everyone is suppose to seek, it creates a void in their lives. It’s all a matter of brainwashing. If people weren’t told to want sex, I wonder how much pressure would exist to seek it as ardently as people do.
@NightlyDreams - From some of the dreams you’ve shared, I’d say you’re still pretty sex crazed. just kidding. lol I think everyone would be better off seeking love for the sake of love rather than love for the sake of sex.
@harmony0stars - I enjoyed speech and debate. I think you would have had a grand time. I could see where you would make a good judge too.
Good point… now I’m wondering the same thing.
@harmony0stars - It must be repressed sexual stuff because I rarely think about it if not to worry about something attached to it.