So, my sister is pregnant, but not happily. She and her boyfriend are constantly fighting. They say they are not, that they are just teasing each other, but it doesn’t seem that way to me or anyone else. Really, I don’t think they will stay together. Personally, I don’t see how anyone could stay with my sister. She’s… well, she’s a b****, with a capital B. She always has been. She’s downright nasty at the best of times. I truly worry about my nephew and what living with her will do to his state of mind. Not that I’ve ever seen her do anything that could be construed as abuse, but psychologically? She’s a mess, moody as heck even when she’s not pregnant.
My sister is, in a word, selfish. No matter what she does for others, she thinks of herself first and all others be damned if they don’t fit into her plans. She has as much as admitted this. I am sure she loves my nephew and has said that if her boyfriend treats the new baby better than my nephew, as in playing favorites to his own child, then he is gone. But she also bluntly talks about abortion, makes jokes about it, has gone so far as to look up how far into her pregnancy she can still have one done. She does so loudly and in front of my nephew and her boyfriend. I can’t figure out if it’s a threat to keep her boyfriend in line or if she’s just being her typical self-involved self.
But I don’t think it’s fair to my nephew. He’s getting close to six, and I don’t imagine he’s completely oblivious to what’s going on. We’ve all taken steps to ensure that he’s “involved” in the pregnancy. He puts his head on her belly and says the baby farted or giggled or all manner of things. He talks about what he’s going to do with a baby sister (he doesn’t want a little brother). He’s already attached to the baby.
And yet my sister keeps up her jokes about abortion. She holds it over her boyfriend’s head like an anvil. Personally, I don’t think he’s going to be a good father. He’s like a big child himself.
Regardless, I don’t appreciate the jokes, and I told her so. I think it is ultimately her choice and gods forbid anyone gives her advice on how to raise her child or live her life, but if she’s going to have an abortion, she needs to think about how her son is going to feel about the death of his unborn sibling, especially with how we’ve all worked to keep him a part of the arrival. (Not like when my sister was born, and I was basically ignored. No one made any attempt to involve me in the process, and we had rivalry issues for years.) We’ve all worked hard to make sure E- isn’t threatened by this change to his family. And yet my sister is acting as ignorant as can be about how an abortion would affect my nephew, especially if years later he remembers all the talk about it beforehand.
Frankly, I’m repulsed by how my sister is acting. I’m pro-choice. Like I said, it’s her decision and I don’t contest that. But it’s not a joking matter either. It’s a serious decision that affects more than just her. It disgusts me that she can joke about it at all. I understand that the life the baby is coming into may be less than ideal and that her relationship with its father may not last, but we’ve bought her furniture for the baby. We’ve bought E- books dealing with new babies and being a big brother. If she decides in the month left to her that she is not going to have this baby, E- is going to be devastated. At this point, I think it’s late in the game to be considering abortion. She says she can still have an abortion up to 24 weeks. Personally, I think 16 weeks is pushing it even if she can’t “feel anything yet.”
I just think she is way too cavalier about the possibility of getting rid of the baby.
July 13th
During the three day Buddhist O-Bon festival of Japan, the spirits of the dead mingle with the living. It is a time for family reunions so that the entire family, living and dead, may share in the day’s festivities. After house cleaning is finished, the family moves on to the shrine or grave of their loved ones and fill the site with offerings of herbs, flowers, and food. On the evening of July 12th, the family gathers at the grave-side to greet ancestral spirits and escort them home. Called the Feat of Lanterns by foreigners, the nights are illuminated by lanterns and torches. For the rest of the festival, families feast, laying a place at all meals for their deceased. Celebrants gather outside in parks or squares to participate in the traditional Bon Dance intended to greet and comfort the wandering souls. At the end of the festival, farewell fires are lit and lanterns are set out to help the spirits find their way home. In some areas, little boats equipped with lanterns are also sent out.
The birthday of Ra occurs on the 30th day of Mesore.
Comments (4)
i really don’t think people should use abortion as birth control (she sounds like one that is using it that way) and i would absolutely hater her doing this to her 6 year old boy. i don’t like to hate anyone i try hard not to dislike people but something like what you are suggesting she might do just makes me extremely upset.
Wow. Just… wow. What a horrible situation she’s creating.
I’m pro-choice but abortion is not something one should talk about lightly or hold over another person’s head. I feel so bad for your nephew. He may understand a little bit and if he’s being involved in the pregnancy and suddenly your sister is no longer pregnant, that’s going to be very hard to explain to such a young kid.
You’re right about her being a B****. If she decides to have an abortion you could kick her upside the head once it is over. You can’t while she’s pregnant… it’s a crime. She certainly needs a good kick. Even if she decides to keep the baby. You can always wait until she gives birth and then kick her.